22 Do’s and Don’ts Just For You

By Lorraine Sanabria Robertson

Men and women are different — period!  Men say one thing, women hear another.  Men think logically, women are more emotional. How in the world are you supposed to figure out the sometimes-quirky womanly-ways of your wife if you can’t even understand what she is saying?

She can never seem to put down advice books and now, she’s gone over the edge. “Honey, you’ve got to see this!  It’s a chapter just for you!”

So what do you do?  Tell her no and spend the night in the doghouse, or read it reluctantly and possibly learn something.  If you don’t know which to do, you definitely need to read this article and possibly that book, too! Being a husband doesn’t come with an instruction manual, at least until now, like a computer or TV.  It can be confusing, challenging, overwhelming and down right scary.  But, it doesn’t have to be if you communicate and compromise with your wife.

So here are a few do’s and don’ts to help you. Read on, take notes, and try to find it in your heart to listen and learn, or at least, humor her!

Be Sensitive…

Do Tell Her She Is Beautiful.  Not only when she’s dressed up to go out, but also when she’s lying around the house with no make-up.

Do Cuddle With Her Sometimes.  Ok, I know I said the “c” word, but do it.  A little cuddling will get you a long way.

Do Take Care Of Her When She’s Sick.  Cater to your wife the same way she caters to you when you’re sick.

Do Compliment Your Wife When She Cooks You A Nice Meal.  Let her know that you appreciate the time she took to cook for you… and it’s also a good way to keep the hot meals coming!

Do Be Honest If She Cooks Something That You Don’t Care For.  Just be sensitive.  Don’t say, “it’s nasty.”  Try, “its okay, but I love when you make…”

Do Tell Her That Her Hair Looks Nice When She Comes Home From The Hairdresser.  Compliments should come first, save any other comments for later.  If she’s uncertain about it herself, that could push her into a hair induced breakdown.

Don’t Forget To Look At Her First, Before You Tell Her That Her Hair Looks Nice.  Yes, only once did my husband make that mistake. The fact that he said something without even looking was worse then no compliment at all.

Be Smart…

Don’t Ever Forget Her Birthday — Ever!  It could take months to recover from that one.

Do Wear Your Wedding Ring.  It’s a symbol of your love and commitment!  Wear it proudly.

Don’t Answer “Yes Dear” Unless You Heard What She Is Asking.  And, don’t get mad at your wife when you’ve said yes to something that you didn’t hear and get stuck doing something that you don’t want to do.

Don’t Watch Television When Your Wife Is Trying To Have A Serious Conversation.  It only makes her more upset which ends up being worse for you.

Do Let Her Know Your Needs.  If you don’t tell her, she won’t know, and you won’t get it.

Don’t Ever Tell A Woman Who Is Acting MOODY That She Must Be On Her Period.  Especially if she is! Whether it’s true or not, it’s not the kind of thing that should be brought up in the heat of an argument.

Don’t Expect Her To Be Your Mother.  Sometimes you hate when she acts like she’s your mother yet sometimes you secretly want her to.  She’s not your mother so don’t expect her to fill those shoes!

Don’t Check Out Other Women When You’re With Her.  Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you’re blind, but, don’t be disrespectful and look at other women when you’re with your wife.  Instant ticket to the doghouse!

Be Sexy…

Do Cook For Her.  Men who can cook are sexy!

Don’t Think Foreplay Starts When You’re About To Have Sex.  It’s an all day thing and has a lot to do with how you treat her through out the day.

Don’t Fart In Bed And Think You’re Going To Roll Over And Have Sex.  There’s a time limit that has to elapse between disgusting behavior and sexual behavior. You just turned your bedroom into a locker-room, now you have to do something to get her back in the mood.

Do Know That Romance Is More Than Flowers and Candy.  It’s looking into her eyes when your talking, it’s cuddling on the couch, and it’s opening the car door for her.

Do Know What Romance Means To Her.  Ask her what makes her melt, listen when she tells you and most importantly do whatever it is!

Do Know That You Can Give Flowers Without a Reason.  That makes getting them ten million times better.